Conflict is a disagreement, typically long-term

Takes place outside of yourself.

avoiding conflict, looking for a winner and threatening hurt.

Compromise, accommodation and collaboration

Reaching a mutually satisfying end.

Changing your goals to make one person happy.

Working the same issue together to reach one end

Generally who controls the relationship, hopefully shared.

In a distressed situation one person may take control and overuse.

Having an outsider judge your conflict