We have to identify our triggers, or at least, get clear about the difference between our shit, their shit, and god’s shit? What is in our control and what do we personally need to work on?
Our triggers function like landmines for our partners, coworkers, family, and friends. These people often have no idea they’re hurting you, as they are invisible land mines, your triggers, because when you uncover your true triggers, you will see they are based on moments in your life where you felt vulnerable and small. When triggered, you act in defense, build an emotional wall, run, go limp or fetal, whatever reactive coping skill you have created to survive these heavy, vulnerable moments.