DISCIPLINE OF CHILDREN

What is discipline?
As part of their natural development, children sometimes challenge or test parental and adult expectations and authority. Sometimes, children simply choose to misbehave in order to gain something (e.g., attention, an object, power, peer approval). Discipline is how children learn right from wrong.

Parental or adult discipline of children should be designed to help children engage better with others and to modify or control their behavior. Providing appropriate discipline to children is one of the most essential responsibilities of a parent. And providing consistent and positive discipline helps children grow into responsible adults.

What does the bible say about it?
Proverbs 13:24
" Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him."

3 FORMS OF PARENTING

• Authoritative
• Authoritarian
• Permissive

AUTHORITATIVE

• Has clear expectations and consequences
• Affectionate toward his or her child
• Allows for flexibility
• Collaborative problem solving with the child
• The most effective form of parenting

AUTHORITARIAN

• Clear expectations and consequences
• Shows little affection toward his or her child
• Parent says things like "because I'm the mom, thats why"
• A less effective form of parenting

PERMISSIVE

• Shows lots of affection towards his or her child
• Provides little discipline
• Less effective form of parenting

HOW DOES PHYSICAL DISCIPLINE EFFECT CHILDREN?

• Increases anxiety and fear
• Hinders the development of empathy and compassion for others
• Makes children angry in response
• Heightens aggression towards others
• Decreases complience and increases resilience

HOW TO DISCIPLINE POSITIVELY

• Discipline with love
• Focus on the behavior not the child
• Respond immediately
• Be realistic
• Remain calm

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE CONTINUED...

• Be fair
• Set boundaries
• Make it a learning opportunity
• Develop rules and expectations in advance
• Model desired behavior yourself

T/F QUESTIONS

• There are 3 types of parenting? True
• Is it important to discipline with love? True
• Being unrealistic is a good stategy? False