Solving Conflict

Conflict

• Most people have relationships with many people, like friends, classmates, family members. All through out our lives we face many conflicts with those people. Whether it may be small or big. When it comes to a conflict with someone, you must first address the issue. In the following slides I will coem up with a fake problem, and then come up with a plan on how i'm going to solve it.

The Problem

• On Monday, my closest friend brought up something that had been bothering her for quite a while. She said that I am just too perfect for her, better in every way. That i out shinned her in everything and she was tired of it. I got the better grades, was happy all the time, saw the good in people, everyone liked me, all the guys wanted me, and i was social. I didn't even realize that this was going on until that day. She told me to back off, and she walked away.
• Now identify the problem. The problem was that i was too "perfect" in her eyes and she didnt like being the under dog.

How it makes you feel

• After she left, only emotion replayed throughout my head. Anger, sadness, fear and worry. Why wouldn't she have said this sooner, why does this effect our friendship, Im not perfect in anyway....... All these questions and thoughts ran through my head. I never felt so scared of losing someone.
• You have to identify all the emotions so that you can come up with ways to solve the problem. You also have to know the other persons feelings. From what we know the friend is feeling hurt, and undermined.

Obstacles

• Its been a week now and she wont talk or look at me. Most the time she looks upset, but its hard to tell. Its getting harder to have hope. I try talking to her but she just ignores me. Now i'm getting mad and frustrated.
• AS you can see the obstacles with this problem is ignoring, and bad feelings.
• From the other point of veiw
• The obtacle from the other side is hate and igoance. She doesnt want the problem to be solved.

Solution

• " please talk to me, i know your hurt you. Im so sorry."
• " No No its all my fault, I was being to big headed."
• " Friends"
• "Friends"
• Just make sure you sympathetic and really mean it. Change some things, like if your a bragger or annoying. Just amke sure you know what yuo apologizing for.