on a source outside ourselves to give us a sense of self-worth

and perpetuate our dependence.

who was treated with criticism, mistrust and restrictions

We always have a concrete reason that explains our pain.

I could justify her actions: My mom hurts me because I’m fat and ugly.

Because we learned very early that revealing ourselves creates distance.

A person who goes on a binge believes she lacks self-control.

When you listen to the critical voice in your head?

it will mean every one who treated you as broken will have been wrong

we tell ourselves that meeting our own needs means we will never be loved

You must be willing to stop shaming and caging yourself.

through deprivation, judgement or self-loathing

STOP BEING A VICTIM

when you name them, and only then.

The way you treat people you love.

Means telling the truth to yourself about what you have lost.

but with kindness. Always with kindness.

victims of systems in which they spend their lives punishing themselves for not being good enough.

you don't let it end.

IS THE INABILITY TO KNOW WHEN WE’VE HAD ENOUGH.

to live while you are alive instead of dying while you are alive.

The purpose of healing is to be strong in the broken places.

you're using food to glue your life together between hungers.

by breaking a restriction you have imposed upon yourself.

and we have to watch ourselves vigilantly.

You are acting from the desire to care for yourself.

you begin to allow that same possibility for your emotional hunger.

How is what you are doing helping you?

the moment they recognize their power to choose.

to sit with discomfort.

is the voice that tells you it's impossible.

as you live with the wounds.

You don't need a scale to tell yourself you are allowed to

can only come through kindness to yourself.

Open dark roads

Know that your hunger beyond food is yours to take.

Start crawling.

so there is no reason to eat it all today.

as though you like yourself.

You have to do something you’ve never done.