Helping Others without
Harming Yourself

Welcome

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This is for you if:

• you lead / care for others
• you wonder if you're making the difference in the world that you'd like
• you feel overwhelmed or stressed out by all the things you're involved in
• you're not seeing the results you'd like
• you're not stressed or discouraged, but want to "level up"
• you're tetering on the edge of burnout

What we'll cover

• The challenge of helping others without...
• Why it matters
• Living with rhythm
• Building a life of deep impact and spiritual/emotional well-being

Who am I?

1. The challenge

Easy to lose our way:

• get distracted from purpose
• get weary & resentful
• get proud and smug
• get anxious and stressed
• get discouraged & disillusioned

"Most spiritual leaders do not finish well"
- J. Robert Clinton

2. Why this matters

PREMISE:

The ultimate impact of your service flows from who you are

FLIP SIDE OF COIN:


People's contribution, skills, message are undermined / negated...

GOAL:
The positive impact of your life multiplies over time rather than diminishes

"Guard your heart"

OR...lower resistance:

• outbursts
• entitlement
• moral lapse

Or...lose our sense of:

• compassion
• perspective
• wisdom
• creativity

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3. How to do it:

[ commit ]

WHO YOU ARE
your very being
is your instrument
(for better or worse)

Your being -- heart, attitude, energy, compassion, wisdom, love, congruence -- can't be faked

Commit ...

Commit to a lifestyle of oscillation, honoring rhythms of our days, weeks, and years

"Energy is the capacity to do work. Our most fundamental need as human beings is to spend and recover energy. Full engagement requires cultivating a dynamic balance between the expenditure of energy (stress) ...

"...and the renewal of energy (recovery) in all dimensions. We call this rhythmic wave oscillation, and it represents the fundamental pulse of life."
- Jim Loehr

living with rhythm is:

• rare
• hard (temptations)
• not rewarded
• ESSENTIAL

“When we live without listening to the timing of things, when we live and work in twenty-four-hour shifts without rest–we are on war time, mobilized for battle. Yes, we are strong and capable people, we can work without stopping, faster and faster, electric lights making artificial day so the whole machine can labor without ceasing. But remember: No living thing lives like this...

"There are greater rhythms, seasons and hormonal cycles and sunsets and moonrises and great movements of seas and stars. We are part of the creation story, subject to all its laws and rhythms…. To surrender to the rhythms of seasons and flowerings and dormancies is to savor the secret of life itself. Many scientists believe we are ‘hard-wired’ like this, to live in rhythmic awareness, to be in and then step out, to be engrossed and then detached, to work and then to rest...

"It follows then that the commandment to remember the Sabbath is not a burdensome requirement from some law-giving deity—’You ought, you’d better, you must’—but rather a remembrance of a law that is firmly embedded in the fabric of nature. It is a reminder of how things really are, the rhythmic dance to which we unavoidably belong."
-Wayne Mueller

in your day:

• daily retreat time
• "smoke" breaks
• catch moments
• transition ritual

in your week:

• Sabbath
• Personal day / time

in your year:

• Vacations
• Retreats
• Reflection / renewal times

Remember the difference between
"to" and "for"

You can probably guess ...
living with rhythm
is part of mindset shift

4. Building a life of service on the foundation of emotional and spiritual health

Blueprint to thrive:

• connect to meaning and mission
• adapt to tension of multiple missions
• tap into divine guidance & power
• create rhythms & systems to make your mission sustainable
• fuel motivation & starve discouragement

lastingleaders.com/blueprint

Promise I made:
Turning point insight
from lasting leaders ...

(just one change ...)

UPLEVEL THE QUALITY
OF INPUT:
- going to sleep
-1st thing in AM

http://lastingleaders.com/blueprint

"I will not die an unlived life.
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
more accessible;
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.”
— Dawna Markova