DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

SEXUAL ABUSE

• Sexually abused children are tormented by shame and guilt.
• The shame of sexual abuse makes it very difficult for children to come forward.
• They may feel that they are responsible for the abuse or somehow brought it upon themselves
• This can lead to self-loathing and sexual problems as they grow older
• False accusations of sexual abuse are not common, so if a child tell's you, take him or her seriously

PHYSICAL ABUSE

• 1 and 4 woman will experience some form of physical violence
• 85% of domestic violence victims are woman
• In any form, violence and abuse profoundly affect individual health and well-being
• Signs of physical abuse :
• Family members provide different explainations of how injuries were sustained

VERBAL ABUSE

• From time to time we are all likely to say something which is nasty and abusive to our partner or our children
• Some forms of verbal abuse, such as name calling or sneering
• Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish
• you can find out what is ‘wrong’ with people who are verbally abusive
• Most people targeted by verbal abuse try to explain to the abuser why what they’ve just heard is not true

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

• Isolate a woman from her friends,work,family,cultural or faith.
• Act overly jealous or possessive; accuse a woman of having affairs if she talks to another man.
• Criticize a woman constantly - her actions, size and appearance, and abilities;
• Use a woman's disability or deafness to demean or control her;
• Threaten, intimidate, harass, or punish a woman if she doesn't comply

FINANCIAL ABUSE

• Financial abuse is a form of mistreatment in which someone forcibly controls another person's money
• Stealing money,not allowing a victim to take part in any financial decisions
• People who attempt to control and take money from the elderly have a variety of motives
• Financial abuse is a common tactic used by abusers to gain power and control in a relationship
• financial abuse becomes present when the survivor is attempting to leave or has left the relationship.

CHILD ABUSE

• 1 OUT 4 CHILDREN ARE VICTIMS OF ABUSE
• 80% of child maltreatment fatalities involve at least one parent as perpetrator
• Child abuse doesn't only happen in poor families or bad neighborhoods.
• Telling a child he or she is “no good," "worthless," "bad," or "a mistake."
• Limited physical contact with the child—no hugs, kisses, or other signs of affection

BEING IN A HOME OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

• Children in violent homes are abused at a rate of a 1500% higher than the national average
• 63% of all boys, ages 11 to 20 who commit murder, kill the man who was abusing their mother
• Boys who witness domestic violence are more likely to batter their female partners
• Girls who are raised in a domestic violence house are more vulnerable to being abused
• They may feel rage at the abusive parent, also angry at the non-abusive parent for not being able to protect them

How many people are affected: One and 4 woman are victimized by domestic violence in her lifetime , each or us know someone who has been affected whether we know it or not

IF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE NEVER HAPPENED

• No more bruises
• No more black eyes
• No more threats
• No more busted lips
• No more getting beaten

NO MATTER

• How many times he says sorry
• How many times he threatened you
• How many times he hugs you
• How many times she blames you
• How many times she kisses you

SIGNS OF PHYSICAL ABUSE

• Black eyes or Busted Lips
• She gets nervous talking about her partner
• If you ask her why she has a bruise she will make a excuse
• Attempting to hide bruises with makeup or clothing
• Having to ask permission to meet, talk with, or do things with other people

VERBAL ABUSE SIGNS

• your partner speak to you differently in private and in public
• your partner deny being angry or upset when he/she very obviously is
• discounts your perception of reality and denies itself
• you often leave a discussion with your partner feeling completely confused?
• your partner act as though you were attacking them when you try to explain your feelings

SPEAK UP

• Tell someone
• Call 911
• Make a plan to get out
• Figure out a way for the abuser to not know you are leaving

WOMAN AND MEN CAN BOTH BE ABUSERS

• It doesnt matter what sex you are you can still be a victim or Abuser
• More than 40% of men are victims
• 1.3 million woman are victims
• domestic violence can affect anyone – including men
• Some people think it is only men abuse but thats not true

STALKING IS APART OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

• 3 in 10 people and 1 in 10 men in the US have experienced stalking
• Stalking is a form of abuse you are trying to control what is happening in there partners life
• Domestic Violence stalking is a long term reality for most victims
• Some abusers use stalking to make sure there partner never leaves or cheats
• You are not safe just because you leave a domestic violence situation

SAME SEX ABUSE

• Abuse in same sex relationships appear to occur with the same frequency as domestic violence
• The differences surrounding abuse in gay or lesbian and straight relationships have to do with social context.
• Some people belive that women are not likely to abuse each other.
• A woman in a same sex relationship who experiences dating violence or domestic violence may face many issues
• His/Her Partner May Hit Her, Try To Control Her/Her, or force them to have sex

IF YOUR PARTNER IS VIOLENT DONT BE SILENT