Self-preservation is one of the necessary conditions for us to maintain a relationship with someone. In the article "PRESERVE YOUR SELF-RESPECT IN RELATIONSHIPS," the author said that self-preservation is necessary to maintain self-esteem in a relationship and maintain a healthy relationship.

The first person we need to take care of in any relationship is myself. If you think you're being harmed or "Is this fair to me?", the relationship is not good at all. This is not fair if someone asks for something that makes you uncomfortable or if someone's behavior ignores your feelings and needs. What is needed is self-preservation.

There are times when boredom comes in regardless of friendship or a relationship between lovers. Perhaps in relationships, recovery is more difficult when boredom comes than in friendships, and it is more important to have time alone and give time to each other. However, if you waste this time, this time may not be a time to think, but rather a shortcut to ending the relationship. Giving each other time and reflecting on each other's feelings will help restore the relationship. This is also one of self-preservation.

The keyword self-preservation can be easily found in the Bible. But God rebukes us for the foolishness we have done by saying self-preservation. “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment. A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion” (Proverbs 18:1-2 ). Self-preservation is never meant to be selfish and arrogant. Self-preservation is to respect each other's while keeping my standards and also understanding and respecting others' standards.

While we're in a relationship with someone else, we can have friction because of differences in our thoughts. This is a matter of course. But staying between the two conflicts does not develop a relationship, but rather can backfire. There are many ways to restore a relationship, but listening to each other's words and abandoning one's greed is greatest way to recover the relationship. Or you could listening to a third person's opinion, it is very helpful for introspection. In this situation, it is necessary to be considerate of the other person rather than insisting on self-preservation.