Talk for less than a third of the time in a coaching session. Trust that by giving her time to talk and be heard -- and perhaps a thought-provoking question -- she will get what she needs from the conversation.
There’s a lot of change that needs to happen in our schools, and it’s going to take time. You can make every conversation count. The poet Rumi wrote, “Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process.” Trust the process.
Be insatiably, humbly curious. Learn to ask nonjudgmental questions that create expansion in someone else’s thinking and imagination. Learn to ask nonjudgmental questions about assumptions, biases, interpretation, and opinion. Know that you will learn a tremendous amount as an instructional coach about things you don’t yet know that you don’t know. Be curious.