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FEBRUARY 2015 REVISED Gifted & Bullied:

Published on Nov 22, 2015

This Haiku Deck supports a presentation made in January 2015 on stories and lessons from families of gifted/2E kids who have experienced bullying. The actual stories were shared orally in the talk, but the Haiku Deck offers a useful overview of the issues and solutions.

Note that I have a book forthcoming on this topic from GHF Press. More information can be found at www.RedWhiteandGrew.com --> Research

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Gifted & Bullied:

Stories (and Lessons) from Families • Pamela Price, Author, GHF Press
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30+ Years of Research

(Yes, I was gifted/2E and bullied, too.)
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Research for my book includes

  • Personal experience
  • Current scientific research
  • Parent survey
  • Discussions in my online salon
  • Total: over 200 sources
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2006 study at Purdue

  • 432 gifted kids
  • 67% had been bullied (mostly verbal)
  • 16% said they had been bullies
  • 29% had violent thoughts (!!!)
  • Peak year: 5th grade
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"All children are affected by bullying, but gifted children differ from other children in significant ways." - Jean Sunde Peterson

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What is "bullying"?

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StopBullying.gov

Resources for definition • signs • strategies
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What experts tell us

  • Gifted kids are easy targets
  • Gifted kids are sensitive
  • 2E kids are MORE of above
  • The pain of giftedness endures
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"Gifted Lifetime"

Bullying happens throughout it
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Schools and bullies

get the media interest, but...
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Families are affected.

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Parent survey details

  • Small, non-scientific
  • Mix of education levels and approaches
  • Mix of short and long term bullying
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Let's hear from parents...

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Where bullying occurs

  • Public school
  • Private school
  • Homeschool
  • Other (including families)
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What kinds of bullying?

  • Peer-to-peer
  • Adult-to-child
  • Adult-to-adult (gifted lifetime!)
  • "Random" and targeted
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Prime targets

  • 2Es (ADHD, etc.)
  • Smart ("Tall Poppies")
  • Gender fluid/LGBTQ
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Families as collateral damage

How do we heal/protect our families?
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Listen. Validate.

Address actions appropriately.
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Acknowledge triggers

In ourselves • In G/2E kids
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Healing Strategies

  • Therapies
  • Mindfulness
  • Self-care
  • "Flow"
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Therapies

CBT/DBT • PTSD • OT • Social/communication skills/language
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Mindfulness

at home (HeartMath) • in schools (Inner Explorer)
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Self Care

(parents can model positive behaviors at home)
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Gifted advocates*: beware "compassion fatigue"

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"Flow"

emphasizing the cultivation of optimal experience
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The bully "solution"
--the resolution of both aggression and pain--
is found not in "zero tolerance" policies but in the reconnection of hearts with minds. And it starts
with the thoughtful management and care of the self.

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Pamela Price

RedWhiteandGrew.com • Facebook.com/RedWhiteandGrew • @RedWhiteandGrew
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The book on which I am working is due from GHF Press in 2015. See previous slide for ways to connect with me on this particular topic.

Pamela Price

www.redwhiteandgrew.com