Self Care + Self Trust

What is Self- Care?

• the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health
• the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress

How do we practice Self-Care?

• Honor Your Feelings
• Connect to Yourself
• Explore what self-care means
• Find your vitamin c
• Create boundaries

HONOR YOUR FEELINGS
Just don't stay there
in
dirty pain.

CONNECT TO YOURSELF

• Only humans can self monitor
• Pay attention to what is actually happening
• Pay attention to what actually happened

YOUR ZOO BRAIN

PET THE LIZARD

• Fight or flight
• Recognize the threat
• Know you are ok
• Relax the body and breathe deeply
• Know you are not flawed

FEED THE MOUSE

• Regulating emotions and desires
• Acknowledge how/ what you are being fed
• Recognize every day fuel

HUG THE MONKEY

• Higher function thinking
• Connection
• Recognize connections
• Know you belong
• Visualize yourself as belonging
• Find ways to connect

SELF CARE IS POWER

• What do you consider self care?
• What kinds of things, activities, time, people, boundaries, music, dancing, books, pictures, food, sleep, connection etc do you need to be at 100%
• Teach people how to treat you by treating yourself well.
• Bring on the joy train

EXERCISE- The JOY LIST

• Write down some things that give you joy
• simple pleasures, good meals, outdoor activities
• Think of your senses and go from there.
• Come back to this list when you feel like you don't know how to find joy.
• This is YOUR Vitamin C

WHAT’S YOUR VITAMIN C?

What is Self-Trust?

• You deeply believe you can take care of your needs
• You deeply believe you can take care of your safety
• You deeply believe you can figure it out
• You deeply believe you have the ability to adapt, survive and thrive

HOW DO WE BUILD SELF TRUST??

• Connect to ourselves
• Tame our zoo brain
• Become aware of negative bias
• Create mantras, affirmations and visualizations
• Find evidence you can trust yourself

Negative Bias
Is
Natural

5:1

YOUR BRAIN IS LIKE A GARDEN

UNTENDED

• Unconscious thoughts
• Negative bias
• Making up stories
• Self distrust

TENDED

• Awareness
• Ability to question your thoughts
• Create positive reinforcement
• Create positive neural pathways reinforcing positivity.
• Creates Self-trust

MANTRAS
AFFIRMATIONS
VISUALIZATIONS

MY EXAMPLES

• I am doing fine
• This is what a wealthy woman looks like
• Wouldn’t it be awesome if...
• My 2020 was filled with health, wealth, amazing connections, learning, finding new ways of living life.
• I know can adapt

Be your own detective

• Let go of the past (regrets)
• Let go of the future (worry)
• Do find past examples where you did just the right thing for yourself
• Do spend time imagining a positive future
• Do spend time dealing with the NOW

EXERCISE

• Pre-cap
• Write a positive version of this month as if it already happened
• Awesome things you learned
• How you practiced self trust
• How you felt awesome, connected and self aware
• How you thought about and practiced small daily actions of self care

QUESTIONS?
Ask Away!


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